Happy Mother’s Day Mom! But what if you don’t have a Mom? Today’s modern family could have two Dads. The new modern family seems to be widely more accepted in society each year. Other than giving a biological birth, are we really sure what a Mom is? Even female stay at home caregivers can assume many different roles. Many of us honor our Mothers today by giving her flowers or take them out for dinner or buy them chocolate or maybe even orchestrate an event where all the famlies get together with the various Moms. You will get a lot of family photos out of that one.
Today is at least a day for proclaiming that we are family and the makeup of family has certainly changed in recent years. In schools the teachers don’t say anymore, go tell your parents to sign your homework, they know better. Now they say, seek the adult you live with and have them sign your homework. Like many other things in life, the definition of family is changing. A few years back, the cereal Cheerios recently had advertisements for their breakfast food that featured a white Mother, African American Dad and an adorable mixed race child. The overwhelmingly response to the ad was positive but there was hateful backlash on the Internet much of it were overtly racist. There was so many negative comments, the company chose to take down the comments section off of the website for a while.
We are currently going through a period of extreme change in defining a family. Marriage has hit an all time low of 51% of Americans. More than 15% of marriages are either interracial or inter-ethnic or both. As for raising children, more than one million homes are raising children by a single parent. The number of same sex parents with children has risen to an all time high of 120,000 families. In the 1950's, the message was that there was only one kind of family. It was the married family as seen in the popular Leave it to Beaver Show when dad was male and mom was female and they had biological children. He left home for work and she ran a perfect household with their perfect children.
Now we have popular TV shows like Mom’s and Modern Family that shares with America the new type of family. We have gone to diverse pathways to achieve happy families. Should we even bother to have a Mother’s Day anymore? There are blurred lines between even gender roles and the type of chores that men and women handle at home. There are many stay at home Dads now making the cupcakes. There are many same gender couples who have been married for many years choosing to be parents now. No set Mom no set Dad. Could Mothers actually become a thing of the past?
Much of America still does not accept same sex marriage. It is legal in many states. Even interracial couples on TV can draw a negative response. There’s definitely two groups of people out there. One that accepts change and one that refuses to change. I think more emphasis should be spent on analyzing the quality of life children are receiving in any kind of family. Perhaps they might be doing better without a traditional Mother around. We are not two Americans. We are one America going through a rebirth. What will never change will be a desire to nurture children in a loving and tender way and that is what Mother was to most of us if we were lucky. A Mother loves you no matter what. Love whoever raised you today.