In this age of computerized lists
about just about anything, why isn’t there a good list of where all those sperm
donor’s deposits go? Fatherhood should be taken more seriously than just an
advertisement in the back of a magazine, cash for sperm. Should family ties
mean anything anymore? At least for heredity of possible life span or history
of diseases like heat disease, Alzheimer’s or cancer, it would be good for
someone to know the history of the people that made you you. Why is America not concerned about the
statistics?
In some instances a particular
sperm donor could have fathered as many as 200 children. Does ethics fall
anywhere here? I guess not. At times you can find large advertisements in good college’s
newspapers seeking sperm donors from some smart guys. Some guys answer the
advertisements because they can use the cash or inquire just for the fun of it.
Women get harassed for their abortion rights all the time but no one cares
about what the guys are doing. People who go to a sperm bank really want to
have children. Creating life should be documented more carefully. Most men
donate especially if they don’t have to meet any of their children.
All donor dads sign an
agreement to remain anonymous. The families on the receiving end are only given
basic background information about their donor. His age, height, ethnicity,
education, birth place are disclosed. clincks They give a
donor an identification number that has now become the gateway to possible
meetings between child and dad. It is an innate human
desire for all humans to want to know where they come from. There is an on line database called The Donor
Sibling Registry. It is a networking site for children who want to connect by
matching their donor father’s identification number. 47 thousand people have
registered including 2,300 donor dads. The kids want to see his smile, know his story
and see if they look alike. Most kids
are the children of a single mother and have gone through life asking, “ Where
is daddy? “
Photos on the site are connecting
people. Many are meeting and are beginning to have close relationships. Many
men are giving up their resilience and meeting multiple children that they have
fathered. There was a man who orchestrated a meeting of 8 of his children that
no one ever met before from eight different mothers. Hugging at first is
awkward but then soon becomes contagious as laughter and friendliness ensues. The
reproductive industry does little to make it easier for donor dads and their
children to meet. Why is it that not even the government keeps track of the donors
or kids? There is no tracking whatsoever. Sperm banks ask mothers to record
donor births but it is not required and no organization links different clinics
to the total number of births to a single donor identification.
No one really knows how many kids
are out there from a single donor. The
largest group known is a guy who has about 200 kids. Are humans being born into herds? Some men
donate regularly year after year. The
guy with the eight kids admits to donating about 400 times. A single donation
at a sperm bank can produce as many as 24 sellable vials. So, do the math. The
guy with the 400 donations could have produced 9,600 vials for his clinic to
sell. Who even wants all his kids roaming the earth? We need a better system
and we need it now!
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