It has become a shift in American
culture that leaves the impression that we only produce winners. Brian Saunders
is the President of i9 Sports in Tampa, Florida. He runs about 1,000 sports
leagues across the United States. It is not unusual that as many as 650 kids
will participate in a event and that all 650 kids will receive a trophy. I
understand that the goal is to make each child feel special but it is
inaccurate and sends a very untruthful message about a kids sports
qualifications. Oh, I forgot, now there aren’t any real qualifications. This behavior
is going on in youth sports leagues all around the country. Sign up and your kid is guaranteed a trophy.
The parent feels good and the kid will have something to show to his grandkids.
Win or lose welcome to America’s
trophy culture. Sure everyone is smiling on trophy day but has anyone even
earned the honor? It isn’t even a trophy for effort or trying. Psychologists
feel that this trophy culture is actually harming our kids. The real world does
not work by getting accolades for just being good enough. We are sending our kids
the wrong message. By making kids feel so special for no reason, it has
actually failed to teach them how to succeed. So, now we have a culture of
Americans who believe they deserve stuff for simply showing up. Researcher
Ashly Merryman has written extensively on this subject. I am not saying that it
is a felony if a 7 year old gets a trophy but they need to earn things.
A recent survey stated that
college students believe they should get at least a B grade simply for
attending a class regularly. The trophy business is now a full-fledged
industry. Scott Slendon is the President of JDS Industries in Sioux Falls, South
Dakota where there are warehouses full of trophies to the size of multiple
football fields. It is one of the biggest trophy wholesalers in the world.
Recognition is an industry in the 2 Billion dollar range. Scott’s parents owned
a trophy store that used to bring in about $30 thousand per year. His second
generation company brings in Billions of dollars a year. Do we really need all
that gold plated plastic?
Teams now don’t keep score and if
your name is on the roster regardless of attendance or performance, you get a
trophy even if you are 19 years old. The parents love it. With no score
recorded there are no losers. There is biological evidence out there that too
many rewards actually hurts us. The
technical term is the Partial Reinforcement Extinction Effect. A constantly
rewarded kid becomes resilient to frustration and does not show much
enthusiasm. Just look at that kid!
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