No one has ever learned anything on The Learning Channel. If so, we would all speak French fluently and be able to frame our own homes. The channel airs dysfunctional family after dysfunction till we can’t shut it off. The newest idea was to show men who are attracted to men who choose to marry women anyway. What is even more interesting is that their wives say that it is working out great. Who are these weird people? So, therefore that is why I was forced to watch another show aired on TLC.
My question is that if these guys are indeed attracted to other men then why don’t they just live out their lives as gay men? People are out of the closet more than ever these days. As I sit looking like a jerk with my mouth wide open in amazement they tell me that the man and wife couple are devout Mormons from Salt Lake City Utah. That opens up just another can of worms in this crazy soup of relationships Mormons have strict set of rules when it comes to worshiping their form of God. The Mormons only relationship or marriage can only be between a man and a woman in their church. No other type of love is acceptable.
With his wife sitting right next to him he tells the reporter that 90% of the time he will notice a man over a woman anywhere. Now I need popcorn. To see the blank expression on the face of the woman sitting next to him is disturbing as she has to hear that 9 times out of 10 he is attracted to a man. It reminds me of all the poor women who stand next to their cheating politician husbands when they resign from a really good job due to infidelity. Then after an awkward pause, the wife says in a jokingly way, “I’m attracted to men too.” UGH! Does anyone but me think that somewhere in this marriage sanctioned by the Mormon religion that these two idiots should be attracted to each other?
It gets worse. The guy admits that he didn’t tell her that he is also very much attracted to men until they were going steady for about a year and a half. This sounds like torture to me for these straight women. After weeks of gay questions, she decides to stay in the relationship anyway. Ok she is crazy. The fact is that studies indicate that 50 to 85% of mixed orientation marriages end up in divorce. The show goes on to show gay men who have fathered multiple children in their marriages. Then a group of gay husbands hang out together to play basketball and stare into each other’s eyes trying to stop themselves from temptation, yes from playing with each other’s balls. Yes I said it and I ate all the popcorn already and the show isn’t over yet.
In the year 2000, the American Psychiatric Association published a report that conversion therapy programs are scientifically questionable. At one point a husband went through a program to try to change or suppress his gay feelings permanently. The APA report also said that “the cures for gayness are not substantiated.” He admitted to feeling depressed. The study went on to say that suppression of one’s true feelings can lead to depression, anxiety and even suicide. Is this show going to end with this guy hanging himself in his “perfect” Mormon home surrounded by his perfect wife and kids? What a shame. Now I kick off my shoes. I am in till the credits show up on the screen. Sigh!
The show, My Husband’s Not Gay has gone under fire by LGBT foundations. The people from GLAD has called the show irresponsible. Sarah Kate Ellis the President and CEO of GLAD said “No one can change who they love, and, more importantly, no one should have to. By investing in this dangerous programing, TLC is putting countless young LGBT people in harm’s way.” TLC in response says that the show actually is about inclusion. “TLC airs many different shows about real people and different ways of life, without judgment.” The show airs on Sunday nights. At least be glad you are not in Dubai or in Russia where people get killed for gay thoughts. Well, I still don’t know French or how to frame my house but I do know more about the great freedom America is to allow people to be whomever they want to be and worship who ever they want.