In poker a full house is a good
hand to be holding. In the theater world,
a full house is one where every seat is
filled. In everyday life a full house is one that is packed with so
much stuff, you can hardly move and there isn’t much room for
people. Usually the people that depend
on having lots of stuff around them don’t have many friends around them. They seek comfort in their
belongings and quite frankly do not have the time to even organize them. Their junk becomes
a work in progress that really never gets tended to. It is not fine if others
come in to help touch their stuff for fear that the strangers will simply throw
out something of value or something sentimental. You are looking
at someone defined by one word. Hoarder
There are millions of people who
hoard things they have accumulated for years.
It is estimated that up to 5% of the United States population has the
problem of hoarding. Yes anything you do
to an excess is considered a problem. The hoarding problem
is equal to men and women. A new poll
found out that a third of all Americans admit they have too much clutter in their
homes. 4% of people say things
are just fine and 12% people say that they don’t have enough stuff. This subject of hoarding has become so
sensational that there have been many reality TV shows finding
success in discovering hoarders.
Beyond the spectacle of the
events hoarding has now been diagnosed as a mental condition. Earlier this year for the
very first time, The Diagnostics statistical Manual of mental disorders
essentially the handbook for mental health experts recognized hoarding as a
specific disorder. The formal definition
is someone who has difficulty getting rid of or letting go of possessions. Two major components of the disorder are that
you accumulate way too much more than you need and you
have a hard time saying goodbye to your things.
There is a third component to the disorder that is equally
important and that is the inability to keep it organized.
There is a book out there called
Stuff by Randy Frost which
offers a less clinical view on this subject of
hoarding. He has been studying and
writing about hoarding since 1990. The
public has been fascinated by dramatic stories on the subject. Back in 1947 for
example, there was a story about two brothers who were descendants of a wealthy
family that made headlines that their dead bodies were found
in their town house that was filled with stuff.
No scientific research was done on hoarding until about 20 years ago. Now you can find plenty of people that have
homes full of plenty of stuff. There is
a whole storage industry that has popped up where you can put more stuff in
these containers that you can rent.
You can rent stuff and buy and sell
stuff on places like E Bay. Randy Frost’s
observations
have revealed some key findings.
Hoarding affects
people across the whole economic
spectrum. There is even evidence that
hoarding may even be inherited.
Also that a significant number of hoarders suffer from depression and the region of the brain that determines
the importance of objects shows abnormal activity when hoarders
are faced when making decisions about dealing
with their belongings. The cut off where
you will find a sloppy and disorganized person to a mentally
disabled hoarder is when the quality of their own
life diminished to a point when they cannot conduct every day duties because of
all the stuff around them.
There are companies that clean up
and help hoarders get rid of their stuff but that may not really address the
root of the problem. It might be just making
more room for more stuff. So there are
support groups now for people who need to discuss their habits and recognize
what they are doing, discuss the reasons for keeping all their stuff and
finally gaining the ability to let go and say goodbye. They need to establish very specific weekly
goals. Even if it requires tidying up a
very small area. There are always people
who do not have success and still have their meals sitting on top of their
mail. Groups are good to be able to
discuss the why they do these things. When all the stuff around you becomes suffocating,
you know it is then time to seek help or to do something about the problem.
Like with any other addiction,
you have to make the choice to change with visible results. Words mean nothing unless you prove your words
in
your actions. Impulses will always be
there but it is important to realize how you deal with your impulses and curb
them. The urge to hoard is probably a lifelong
struggle.
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