University of California, Sociologist, Christine Carter worries that when parents demand straight A’s, kids learn the wrong lesson. She says, “They learn that failure is never OK. Knowing who you are, what you want, how to make a mistake, how to pick yourself up, those are all skills that lead to happiness and success in life.“ In the 1993 movie, “The Joy Luck Club” it shows all that achieving can be tough on kids. In this movie, the characters dwell on hours each day practicing piano. My wife, a piano teacher noticed that the Asian students always returned knowing well each and every note in a playing assignment but were somewhat devoid of emotion in their music which should be the most satisfying and reason for wanting to play a composition.
Amy Chua went so far in her demands for perfection for her children that when her daughter said, “This is not China, you can’t make me practice!” she threatened to burn all their stuffed animals and called them names like “garbage”. She touts that it is not abusive.
On the flip side, some pressure their children that they succeed academically at any cost.
They have always relied on memorization and mundane tasks not so many “so what do you think projects”. Many are now questioning that and want their one child to have a more relaxed childhood. The Chinese mothers who notice that the year of the Tiger is about to close and they hope their reputation as Tiger Moms will end as well.