For many successful women adoption is the right choice simply because by the time a woman has time to think of raising a child she has already had her advanced degrees and spent 15 years establishing herself at a good job. Then she finally gets a chance to look in the mirror at age 45 and realizes she forgot to get married and have those kids when she was fertile.
We should be grateful that in America it is fairly easy to adopt a child vs. the process in other countries. You will find children as young as two years old just wandering around unattended in the streets of Cambodia and other places in the world yet the rules there are very strict in order for you to legally adopt a child from these places. In Australia it seems to be an anti-adoption culture with all the rules and regulations there.
Apologies were issued to those three groups and Deborra felt that it was her duty to start speaking out about the unfair practices in Australia. She has adopted her two children from America. Last year there were only about 100 American children adopted to other countries from America. The only reason the Jackman’s were able to adopt was because Deborra established residency here. People can not just come to America and adopt; we have strict laws.
Another issue discussed is the issue of transparency. When and if the child should know when he or she was adopted. For some families the issue does not become a curiosity for years for other families that just don’t look alike or are from a single parent or same sex parents, the wanting to know is an issue early on in the family.
Be as open as possible. When they ask questions is when you address the issue. Even as early as 4 years old children could be inquisitive. Let them watch the cartoons about Stewart Little the mouse who the story is about the mouse being adopted. Take away all the secrecy and do not deal with any shame. Enjoy your family what ever family is to you.